So if anyone is reading this (I have my doubts…;) ) then you will have guessed that my silence after the Dr´s appointment was a bad sign.
Off I went, heart pounding, palms sweating, stomach churning…
” Do you have some good news for me?” asks my doctor.
“Yes, I took a test and it´s positive” I say softly. I want to start crying and confess to him how totally, desperately, utterly terrified I am that it will go wrong again. But I don´t.
After asking me about my dates and my (lack of) symptoms, he takes me straight into the room to have an ultrasound. I can´t bring myself to look at the screen, so I keep my head turned the other way.
“There´s definitely a pregnancy”, he says.
(deep breath)
“It´s in the uterus”
(another deep breath)
“I don´t see any cysts or anything else”
(I slowly turn my head to look at the screen)
” Looks ok so far” he says. I get off the chair and then I ask : “But shouldn´t there be a heartbeat? I think I am already 6 weeks into the pregnancy”. He shakes his head. “no, it is too early.”
Then as if something has suddenly occurred to him, he goes quickly back to his desk, fumbles through his files and takes out a chart. “Ah. Wait” (here we go, I thought). “You are right. It is a bit too small, I am sorry”.
I can´t believe what I am hearing. I am going to be a recurrent miscarrier! This will be my life from now on. I am never going to carry a pregnancy to term.
“Are you sure?” I ask. “Please, let´s check the dates again.” So we do and we find that the embryo is only 2.5 mm when it should be at least 3 mm.
Over the past two days, I have had my blood drawn twice to see if my HCG levels are rising. So far they are. Tomorrow, we go in for a second ultrasound to see if there has been any growth.
Needless to say I am going crazy. After spending a day and a night bawling my eyes out, feeling myself drown in grief, I decided it was time to pick myself up. There is a still a chance. And as long as there is a chance, no matter how small it might be, I have to behave as though I were pregnant.
I don´t dare hope and yet a part of me can´t help it. I desperately hope that everything will be ok. And if it´s not, I don´t know what I´m going to do.
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